Thank You: The Phrase That Can Transform Your Life
Appreciate the good things in life, and don’t do it silently. Say the magic words.
If you’re a parent, you’ve probably told your child to thank someone innumerable times. If you’re not, then you’ve, more likely than not, heard a parent tell their kid to say ‘thank you’. We all want to instil good habits in our children. We love it when people comment about how well-mannered our child is. We beam, we preen, and we vow to continue to remind him/her about the magic words – please, sorry, and thank you. But do we stop to wonder how many times we forget/omit to say those very words to so many people?
Why is it so difficult to say thank you? And why is it so important?
It’s not for no reason that ‘thank you’ is one of the 3 magic words. It really does have the power to transform someone’s minute, day, week, or year. If we can bring joy to someone’s heart, and a smile to someone’s face, that happiness will return to us a million times over. But why do we shy away from saying it? Does it have something to do with our ego, or is it that there are so many people in our life whom we take for granted, and hence, never even think of thanking? We assume they know we are thankful for their actions, for their presence in our life.
How ‘thank you’ can change your life ‘Thank you’ signifies 2 things – gratitude and appreciation. And when you express gratitude, whether it be to one person or to the Universe, things start to happen. Good things, bigger things, better things. Take a look around you, at you. How much do you have that you are thankful for? Or can be thankful for? The more happiness and gratitude you express, the more you will invite things that you need, or want. What you focus on is what you will attract – positive or negative. Every act of kindness and compassion deserves to be thanked. When you appreciate someone, and when you do it honestly, with all your heart, you make the other feel valued. That starts a domino effect of kindness and appreciation, which is sure to come back to you in full force. Remember how good it feels when you are appreciated? Yeah, time to pass the favour on.
But I thank people all the time!
That’s great. But do you do it with your heart? Do you look them in the eye, give them a smile (the kind that reaches your eyes), and tell them exactly what you’re thankful for? Or is it a quick, mumbled ‘thank you’, said only out of habit? Notice it the next time you thank someone. Think about it – doesn’t it feel nicer when your spouse thanks you for understanding their bad mood and waiting it out, rather than just giving you a weak smile and muttering a thanks?
Oh, the benefits!
Making saying ‘thank you’ a habit will not only benefit your personal life, but also your professional life. If you’re an employer, take note that studies have found that thanking employees is a bigger motivator for them than even a pay raise! As long as the appreciation is honest, warm, and specific, the rewards will always be great. You will be perceived as a pleasant person, people will be more inclined to do things for you, or to go out of their way for you. Recognising and expressing that someone has done something for you won’t be bad for that dose of humility you need either!
There really is true magic in this phrase; try it, you won’t be disappointed.